S 02 | Ep 45 The 1,000-Yard Stare: How Near-Death Rewrites Success

Profile imageTed Elliott is the CEO of Copado, a leading DevOps platform for the Salesforce ecosystem, which he helped scale to unicorn status. A seasoned entrepreneur, Elliott previously founded and successfully exited the talent acquisition software company JobScience, and he has built a reputation for driving business growth through rigorous discipline and innovative technology adoption. Beyond his executive achievements, he is recognized for his fearless approach to modern leadership, having navigated a profound personal journey through back-to-back family health crises that fundamentally reshaped his philosophy on management, empathy, and the use of AI as a tool for both personal and organizational clarity. Today, he focuses on leveraging artificial intelligence to build "superpowers" for his team, championing a culture of radical alignment, listening, and continuous learning.

 

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The Human Behind the Screen: Facing Dual Health Crises While Building a Tech Unicorn 

The speakers start by touching on the massive financial success of Capado, noting that its last funding round valued the company at $1.5 billion, giving it coveted "unicorn" status. However, Alex quickly pivots the conversation away from the boardroom to focus on the heavy personal trials Ted faced simultaneously.

Ted opens up about the terrifying moment his wife suffered a heart attack on her birthday, which required a split-second decision to pull into a fire station for emergency help. Shortly after her survival, Ted began experiencing severe stomach pain himself. Despite initially dismissing it, pressure from his young daughter led him to take a screening test. He describes the absolute shock of waking up from a subsequent colonoscopy to find he had a large tumor, leaving him to face his own mortality while his wife was still recovering. He wraps up the clip by explaining how he had to navigate a frustratingly broken insurance system just to get the urgent scans he needed to find out if his cancer had spread.

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Ted captured the sheer disbelief of facing a life-threatening illness right at the peak of his professional success:

"I woke up from the colonoscopy and they said, 'You should get your affairs in order.' And I was like, 'What do you mean I should get my affairs in order?' And they said, 'Well, you have a six and a half centimeter tumor and we don't know how far it's spread into your lymph nodes, but it does not look good.' And I was like, 'Hold on. I just sold my company. I just got this job as CEO of a new company. And we're off to the races. Like this isn't happening. Are you freaking kidding me?'" 

 

Control, Cleanliness, and Life Lessons: Fighting Cancer from the Corner Office 

The Hospital "Kleenex Test": After consulting a friend, Ted managed to bypass health insurance gridlock by going to an emergency room to get his critical CAT scan. Once he knew the cancer hadn't spread, he visited top cancer centers across the country (like UCSF, Sloan Kettering, and MD Anderson) to choose where to get treated. To pick the best one, he used a highly unusual method: he wiped a tissue on the bathroom floors. He figured if a hospital couldn't keep its public bathrooms clean, they wouldn't keep the rest of the facility safe from the infections that often kill chemo patients.

A Surreal Board Meeting: Ted describes the bizarre experience of walking into his second board meeting as CEO to deliver both massive good news and devastating bad news. In the same breath, he announced that they had just won a contract with a massive search engine company, but that they also needed to hire a headhunter because he might not survive long enough to see the software fully set up.

Work as a Lifeline: Instead of stepping down, Ted chose to keep working. He credits his team for supporting him and hiding their worry when he looked sick from chemo and radiation. For Ted, throwing his energy into growing the company kept his mind off his illness and made the grueling treatment process fly by.

The Mental Shift of Being Sick: Ted shares a profound paradox: he was at his healthiest mentally when he was at his sickest physically. Facing death forced him to accept that humans control absolutely nothing. It instantly stripped away the "pettiness" of daily life, like arguing over material things.

The Struggle to Stay Grounded: Finally, Ted opens up about how incredibly difficult it is to hold onto that peaceful mindset once you get healthy again. He shares a painful memory of his last conversation with his father being an argument over something petty just days before his father unexpectedly passed away. Today, Ted views the lingering physical pain from his surgeries not as a burden, but as a daily, grounding reminder that he is still alive and that everyday matters.

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Ted beautifully captures how facing mortality changes a person's entire perspective on success and daily drama:

"I think that I like to say that I was at my healthiest mental state when I was at my sickest physical state. And it's a fight every day to get back to that sort of healthy mental state. What I mean by healthy mental state is when we accept we don't control anything and we want to live our best life. We tend to deprioritize pettiness and things that don't really matter. And as we get well physically and we start using money as a measure of success, things start to get really petty... Dude, when you're dying you can't be buried with any of that stuff, so you start focusing on like, 'What can I actually achieve? How can I have an impact? What can I influence?'" 

 

Overcoming the Nightmare: Chasing Innovation and Using AI to "Chill Out" 

The Fear of Not Waking Up: Ted shares a haunting story about his nine-year-old daughter having a nightmare the night before his nine-hour cancer surgery. She admitted that in her dream, only he died because the doctor "cut out the wrong part." Despite trying to laugh it off to comfort her, the negative thought terrified Ted right up until he woke up from anesthesia in the recovery room, genuinely unsure if he was alive or in the afterlife.

Breaking the Stigma on Colon Health: Ted highlights a serious issue: men are incredibly hesitant to talk about their colons or bowel movements, even though colorectal cancer is killing men at a younger age than ever before (he was diagnosed at just 47). His advice? "You have to get really comfortable with uncomfortable so that you don't end up not taking the test."

Channeling Denial into Learning: Alex points out how shocking it is that someone who went through such a brutal health crisis has so much energy for the future and massive business changes. Ted jokingly explains his secret tool is "denial." By keeping his mind completely consumed with learning new things, he doesn't focus on his physical pain. He shares how he recently used AI models and Google's NotebookLM to instantly build custom summer training plans for 30 new interns.

Using AI for Anger Management: In a hilarious and brilliant leadership hack, Ted reveals that he uses AI to calm himself down before sending angry emails to colleagues. He shared this habit with a team member who was about to fire an employee; the manager tried Ted's trick, and ChatGPT actually convinced him not to fire the person, providing a constructive script for the conversation instead.

The "Billion-Dollar" Executive Coach: This sparked a brand-new business idea for Ted. After an AI prompt successfully helped him navigate a frustrating disagreement with his CFO (who is also his old college fraternity brother) by gently reminding Ted to thank him instead of getting mad, Ted realized the power of AI as a personal coach. He envisions a tool where leaders can upload their business plans and profiles to get objective, AI-driven executive coaching.

A Powerful Moment from Ted Elliott

Ted reflects on how facing death completely changed his daily experience, making him appreciate the world with child-like wonder:

"It's made my life. It makes food taste better. It makes looking up at the sky and seeing that it's blue taste better. It makes talking to people better. I paid for it. I'm going to use it... As long as you're learning, you're growing. And so to me, I look at AI and I look at business and I look at opportunity and I see it as a chance to learn." 

 

Leading Without Fear: How Shifting from "Founder Burden" to "Choice" Alters Success 

AI as an Emotional Crutch: Ted finishes explaining his AI leadership hack. By running his frustrations through an AI model first, he managed to use empathy to align with his CFO rather than blowing up at him. Ted admits that AI acts as an emotional mirror for him. Interestingly, when testing his personality profile on an executive coaching app he's building, the AI rated him as $98\%$ emotionally stable and highly resilient, largely because he is no longer driven by fear.

The "Sentence" of First-Time Foundership: Alex asks Ted to compare his experience running his previous successful company, JobScience, to leading Capado today. Ted reveals that during his first company, he often felt "sentenced" to the job. He carried the heavy, constant burden of making sure payroll was met and felt trapped by obligation—a fear-driven mindset that leads many founders to make short-term, cheap, and "penny-wise, pound-foolish" decisions.

The Post-Exit Letter that Went into the Shredder: Ted shares a funny, humbling story about selling JobScience to a company called Bullhorn. Convinced the new owner, Art Pappas, was ruining his "baby," Ted wrote a blistering letter detailing everything Art was doing wrong. His wife stepped in with a brilliant reality check, asking if he wrote an angry letter to the buyers of their old house when they painted the front door black. Ted shredded the letter and instead chose to study Art’s playbook to learn how to build a highly disciplined company.

The Brutality of Layoffs vs. Cancer: Ted notes that leading Capado is entirely different because he started as an investor and chooses to be there every day—he can walk away whenever he wants, which gives him the freedom to make better, bolder decisions. He contrasts the stability of Capado with a past venture where he was burning $\$7\text{ million}$ a month and had to lay off hundreds of people to survive. Ted admits that firing people is just as lonely and painful as fighting colon cancer: "When you're sick and dying, everyone cares about you... when you fire 160 people, you're the dickhead."

A New "Thousand-Yard Stare": Ultimately, Ted concludes that the combination of near-death illness and financial success permanently altered his perspective on business. He no longer operates from a place of panic or fear. Instead, he focuses entirely on clear-eyed, long-term execution, like mentoring young entrepreneurs on their distribution strategies.

A Powerful Moment from Ted Elliott

Ted highlights the mental freedom that comes with leading out of pure desire rather than financial or emotional entrapment:

"I can leave whenever I want... I'm here because I want to be here. I'm doing things that I want to do. And that is really powerful because you make different decisions. When you feel like you're obligated to keep the ship working or keep it floating, you make decisions that are based on a fear. And a lot of those are hole decisions, right? Short-term decisions, cheap decisions... The combination of almost dying plus having some financial success and business success just changes your thousand-yard stare." 

 

Finding Your Moral Compass: Distribution, Deference, and the "60% Clarity" Rule 

The Rookie Mistake (Distribution vs. Product): Ted shares a conversation he had at a recent startup meetup. A young founder confidently told Ted they were going to raise a million dollars from a wealthy investor rather than focusing on building immediate revenue. Ted's blunt takeaway for second-time founders is that an idea means nothing without a clear distribution plan: "You're dead already and you don't even realize it... unless you have a distribution plan."

Deference and the Domino App Experiment: Ted tells a tough but necessary story about his nephew, who is currently interning at Capado. After the nephew spoke to him too casually in front of a group, Ted set a firm boundary that night, telling him he had to finish an entire software project by Monday or be fired on Tuesday. Ted stayed up late helping him test a basic app just to teach him a lesson: you can learn how to build an application in 48 hours if you're forced to.

Managing Ideas ("Idea Radiation"): The weekend coding sprint with his nephew sparked a brilliant new business idea for Ted about automated app testing. However, Ted notes that a CEO's biggest job is actually to hide $99\%$ of their random ideas so they don't overwhelm the staff. He jokingly calls his creative energy "radiation": "A little of me and you'll feel warm. A lot of me, you'll be dead."

Talking Less with Bloom Growth: Ted admits he used to talk during $80\%$ of his executive meetings. By adopting a framework called "Bloom Growth"—where team members share one personal and professional highlight before voting on an organized, one-hour agenda—he dropped his speaking time down to just $10\%$ to $15\%$, forcing himself to step back and listen.

The Self-Improvement Dashboard: At the very end of the clip, Ted shares his screen to show off a personalized leadership app he built. The dashboard features different AI-driven coaches (such as an innovation coach and a strategic advisor) that analyze his writing, business plans, and LinkedIn profile. The AI scored his communication clarity at just $65\%$, giving Ted a reality check that one out of every three people who listen to him speak are probably completely confused.

A Powerful Moment from Ted Elliott

Ted offers his ultimate "nugget" of wisdom for anyone currently leading a team or a company:

"Live every day like it could be the last day and make decisions as if you weren't going to be here tomorrow. And what I mean by that is let go of the fear, let go of consequence and figure out what's the right thing to do. Have a clear moral compass. Don't lie, cheat, or steal... Unfortunately, my confidence in my clarity is not as good as my clarity, so how do I keep going back?" 

 

From Talking to Listening: Breaking Complex Language Barriers with AI 

The Anti-Fear Strategy: Ted explains that he rolled out his custom executive coaching app to all Capado employees, but made it completely private to each user. Because he is transparent about his own flaws, he wants his team to use AI as a one-on-one personal tool for self-improvement without fearing that a machine—or their boss—is trying to replace them.

Saving a Failing Strategy in Japan: Ted shares a brilliant example of using AI to listen instead of talk. Capado was struggling to close deals in Japan because local teams were hesitant to be completely honest about what was going wrong. Ted took over 350 Japanese sales call recordings from an internal system called Gong, fed them into Google's NotebookLM, and created an AI-generated English podcast of the data. The AI revealed that Capado was pitching to people who lacked purchasing power and were too intimidated to explain the technical product to their bosses. By adapting their strategy based on this insight, Japan quickly became Capado’s fastest-growing business unit.

Slowing Down the Entrepreneurial Brain: Ted acknowledges that his own brain naturally races with thoughts, perhaps fueled by a subconscious fear of dying after his cancer battle. He notes that entrepreneurs are often so deep down their own "rabbit hole" that they lose their audience an hour ago while the audience just smiles and nods. Ted uses AI as a filter to slow down his own clock and make his ideas digestible.

Translating "Tech-Speak" for Salesforce: When Capado's COO noticed that a regional VP from Salesforce seemed completely lost during a highly complex, technical pitch about a new initiative, Ted intervened. He fed the call transcript and all the dense engineering data into an AI model with a simple prompt: make this understandable by a Salesforce leader. The AI transformed the confusing data jargon into a simple, highly successful two-minute video and a clear website with a message that resonated perfectly.

The "Musical Jam Session" of Business: Ted closes with a beautiful analogy from his roots in New Orleans. He describes collaboration as a group of musicians jamming together. When engineers, marketers, and salespeople get in a room, they are usually only focusing on their own "instrument" (their own goals). Ted argues that recording these sessions and using AI allows everyone to step back, hear the full track, and truly connect with what the other players are contributing.

A Powerful Moment from Ted Elliott

Ted pinpoints the exact trap professionals fall into when they refuse to simplify their message:

"I think what happens is we are all in love with our own bullshit. Like a data person's in love with data, a salesperson's in love with the deal... and the question is where are we missing each other by like a two percentage miss where we could just connect? All of a sudden, that's where you get spark... When you get a bunch of inventors or developers or marketing people together in a room and they jam about an idea, I suspect they're only hearing 2% of the music the other person's playing." 

 

The Led Zeppelin Moment: Using AI to Jam, Find Maps, and Solve the Right Problems

The Led Zeppelin Moment: Continuing his music analogy, Ted points out that in the "band called Work," almost everyone thinks they are the lead singer—driving the whole project. But real magic happens when a band like Led Zeppelin coordinates to create a masterpiece. Ted argues that by recording meetings and using AI to interrogate the transcripts, leaders can pull out the brilliant ideas voiced by the quietest person in the corner who might otherwise be ignored.

Workplace Road Trips and Career Maps: Ted shares another demonstration of his custom app. He took a simple two-minute clip of a brand-new intern explaining what he knew, and the AI instantly built a highly structured 60-day roadmap outlining exactly what the intern needed to master. Ted compares working without a plan to going on a road trip without a destination: "How many people do you think get in cars and go on road trips where they don't have a destination? Very few. So why do we come to work to a job and not have a map and a plan and a destination?"

Global Alignment and the V2MOM App: Ted explains how he has been building AI datasets for Capado offices across the globe (from Madrid to New Orleans) to see if everyone is pullng in the same direction. He even built a custom "V2MOM" app (a goal-setting framework popularized by Salesforce) where executives write their goals and AI flags hidden friction points. For instance, the AI pointed out that Ted's hyper-focus on company growth naturally clashes with his CFO's hyper-focus on profitability, allowing them to address the tension directly.

The "Law School" Secret to Leadership: As a graduate of California's bar exam, Ted recalls a golden rule from his law school days: most people fail the bar exam because they simply do not read the question. Instead, they try to answer with whatever they memorized. He notes that corporate executives do the exact same thing—they rush to solve problems without first confirming if they agree on what the actual issue is. He uses AI to constantly cross-examine his leadership team and ask, "What are we trying to solve?"

AI as a "Backhoe" for Weaknesses: Host Alex notes that Ted’s approach goes completely against standard business advice, which usually tells leaders to double down only on their strengths. Instead, Ted uses AI to fix his personal gaps, like his self-admitted struggle with empathy and clear communication. He views AI like a piece of construction equipment: "I look at AI like I look at a backhoe. It's a tool, a backhoe allows you to dig holes faster. AI should allow me to do something I'm not good at better than I could ever do it before."

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Ted breaks down why so many smart executive teams end up failing to execute their biggest goals:

"Most people fail the bar because when they read the question, they're not trying to answer the question. They're trying to answer the thing they memorized. So when you're with people, do we agree on the issue we're trying to solve? If we don't agree on the issue, it doesn't matter what the rule is. It doesn't matter the analysis. It doesn't matter the conclusion... I can't tell you how many times I've gotten management teams together where they all think what they're doing is what the company wants, but they don't agree on what the company wants." 

How to Contact Ted Elliott

If you are looking to connect with Ted Elliott regarding his role at Copado, potential partnerships, or speaking engagements, you can reach him through the official corporate and professional channels outlined below.

1. Professional Networking

The most direct and reliable way to view Ted's current initiatives, professional posts, or to send a direct message for business inquiries is via his verified LinkedIn profile.

LinkedIn: Ted Elliott - Chief Executive Officer at Copado

2. Corporate Contact (Copado)

For official business inquiries, software deployments, executive briefings, or corporate partnerships, you can reach out directly to Copado's corporate infrastructure.

Corporate Email: ted@copado.com

Official Website: Copado Official Website

 

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