And even in the moments it does not feel like it, she can look around and recognize how everything has brought her to this moment, and she knows she can handle it and that she’s never truly alone. Most importantly she realizes suffering does not equal love. She will also understand her children and husband on a genetic level, and help them do the same. She will love and accept them for exactly who they are, not who she thinks they can/should be, which releases the tyranny of expectation. This allows her to build a part- nership with her children and husband, and release herself from the pressure of PARENTING—which is true freedom as a mother. figUrE OUT yOUr AUDiENCE · 83